Love the greatest power for some people and weakness for someone. Generally, people think love means between only boy and girls or couple but loves is between everyone. So, here is my article about expressing love………..
I always wonder about how we should show our love to someone we love and where we should learn to express love. There are no lessons taught on expressing love to other at school neither in any paid institution. It’s is the feeling that automatically develops from the core of the heart.
On Valentine’s Day, we get involved in a flurry of activities like sending messages, flowers and gifts to other without knowing about his or her likes. We do it in our own way. It is perhaps all go to waste. Or it can also be said as just of no benefit of doing so.
We learn how to express love from our parents by watching them together and from ours and from our expression with them. For examples, my wonderful mother sends me a Valentine’s Day Card, in our family we have a tradition of open demonstration of love and affection and it is all right today to say ‘I love you’.
Reflect for a minute about what happened on last Valentine’s Day. If you were given love the way you wanted it to be given? In reality, you are probably thinking I have never thought about it and possibly ‘what a stupid questions?’ It is an important issue to think about and a critical issue to discuss with someone you love, or are even interested in or wanted to have interested in you!
One of the most important questions I think we can ask each other is, ‘what do I do that makes you feel I love you?’ And then listen very carefully and write the answer down. Discuss the article and the concept first because people need time to think about the answer. It is not yours average everyday conservation starter. Given yourself a couple of day to reflect and then make it a dinner tables discussion or a Sunday sit down and talk with the children type session. It would be wonderful to educate our children to think in this way.
You make be surprised at the answer you might get. Behaviors or words or action that means little to you can be the things that make you partner feel loved, safe and secure. For women, it is often ‘words’ or ‘touch’. Men are much more open than women, generally speaking. So, that may be given you some hints.
For some people it can be a spontaneous phone call to say ‘I love you’; or recognizing you have tried and arranging for someone to deliver a home-cooked meal; unexpected places – anything that you to do that makes fell you love them.
In the early romantic days of new relationships, we display delight at anything other person does. Whether it really makes us feel loved or not, we interpret it as loving anyway! As the relationship stabilizes, our real self-emerges and we may feel unloved even though our partner adores us for they just don’t know how to let us know that.
You can have this conversation with your partner, children, and family. You can have annual updates of things that may change or people may become more aware as time goes by of things you do that makes feel loved. Keep adding the new ideas to your list. Both of you need to make sure you put this new information to good use and practice the new behaviors until they come easily. Enjoy! This could be a great fun.
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